For working moms raising kids far from family
Living abroad, working full time, and still yelling at your kids?
No grandma on speed dial when your kid wakes up sick. A full-time job or a business that takes most of your day and energy. And then the pressure to be the mom who gets it all done and never yells…
- If it were your kids’ fault, you wouldn’t snap when they’re whining, clingy or have just gotten hurt.
- If it were the stress from work, you wouldn’t lose it on the weekend.
- If it were just life being heavy, yoga, meditation and talk therapy would have worked by now.
- And if learning more and pushing harder with discipline and willpower were the answer, you’d already be as calm as the Dalai Lama.
So what the heck is going on? Why can’t you stop yelling and be the mom who enjoys her life, the way you thought you would by now?
Moms who stopped yelling, in their own words
Real moms, real nervous systems, real change.
Meet Alena
I was my daughter's first bully.
I used to yell even on a Saturday afternoon on the way to the park, because my 2-year-old was too slow putting on her jacket. In my head, I was already running through our schedule, my to-do list and everything I wanted to get done AFTER we got back. So every little delay set off an alarm bell in my nervous system.
I did read the books about nervous system regulation and burnout. I memorized the parenting scripts. My anger, frustration and stress still came out under pressure, even when it wasn't my daughter's fault.
It wasn't a parenting problem, burnout or postpartum depression. It was a generational autopilot, engraved so deep in my nervous system that I didn't even see it. Since I rewired it, I've helped hundreds of moms like me do the same, without years of therapy and without blaming their parents.
I wrote it all down in my book I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed: my story, the science behind the generational autopilot, and how other moms rewired theirs.
- Creator of the IDTR® method
- Doctoral researcher in generational developmental trauma (CIIS)
- Author of I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
- 20 years living and working abroad
Free 3-minute quiz
Why can't I stop yelling?
Find out which generational pattern hijacks your nervous system when you're short on time, your kids say no or they ignore you. That pattern is what stands between you and being the calm, perfectly imperfect role model you want to be.
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