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Swinging between being 'too nice' and 'too strict' with your kids?
One minute you’re asking nicely. The next you’re repeating yourself for the tenth time. And then suddenly you’re yelling at the people you love most.
You’re NOT a bad mom. You already know what you should be doing. But it’s the stress, anger, and frustration that take over faster than logic.
Most moms are stuck swinging between being too nice and too strict. And it’s a generational autopilot that keeps this cycle going.
Learning how to step out of it changes everything.
I’m Alena Gomes Rodrigues, founder of Zen Supermom. I help working moms — especially those raising kids far from family — stop yelling or silently boiling inside, by rewiring the generational autopilot that takes over under pressure.
I know because I was that mom...
I used to yell at my daughter before breakfast and run to the bathroom so that I could calm down before I yelled again before lunch.
I read the parenting books, and I tried the gentle parenting scripts. And every night when I watched her (finally) sleeping, I promised myself to try harder tomorrow.
It wasn’t until I started addressing the generational autopilot underneath my uncontrollable reactions that everything began to change.
Moms who stopped yelling, in their own words
“I am not exploding anymore.”
Corporate mom of 3, living abroad, after two or three burnouts
“Mommy, you haven’t been fighting with me.”
What a healthcare professional’s little boy told her after just a few days
“I’ve been on this journey for a few years and have done a lot of work on myself… I’m a certified coach myself… I’ve also been through your programme myself, which made your work resonate with me even more.”
A mom and certified coach who was still yelling at her daughter, until she rewired the pattern. Today 3 of our 5 coaches are past clients.
Alena Gomes Rodrigues · Creator of the IDTR® method · Doctoral researcher (CIIS) · Author of I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed · Living and working abroad for 20 years
Most moms think they have a parenting problem.
They actually have a stress response problem.
That’s why parenting advice might work on a sunny Sunday afternoon… and completely disappear on Monday morning when you’re running late, haven’t slept, and your child is melting in front of the door.
Choose where to start
There’s no single “right” next step.
What matters is choosing one that fits where you are right now.
3. READY FOR HELP?
→ Join the Stop Yelling Program: 3 months of support to finally stop yelling and break the generational pattern.
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